Dudeoir vs. Boudoir: Men Are Sexy Too
Hot and steamy photography isn't just for women. Men's boudoir is becoming more and more popular, but how does that differ from dudeoir photos? Is there something you need to know before making your choice?
What Is Dudeoir?
I know you've seen it, men decked out in stereotypical lumberjack attire, striking over-the-top coquettish poses. They're hilarious. Ha, ha, ha. We all laugh and repost on social media for a kick.
That's what dudeoir is-a cutesy spin off of classic female sensual photos taken over the decades. Maybe a guy in a tied up unbuttoned top and cut-off jean short-shorts leaning across a bale of hay or tractor. Or a guy wearing tiny underwear lying in a field of flowers.
Instead of being an arousing photo highlighting men's best features, dudeoir photos are a tongue-in-cheek playful rendition of boudoir. Which is ok if humor is your objective, but male boudoir photography is completely different and should never be confused with dudeoir photos.
Can Men Be Sexy?
Women aren't the only ones who face insecurity about their appearance. A study shows that men are only slightly more secure about what they look like. Out of 12,176 men, only 28% said they were "extremely satisfied" with their looks, and 24% were satisfied with their looks.
It's no wonder that with those kinds of numbers, there's the question of whether men can be sexy. But I'm here to tell you that hell yeah, they can. I photograph men's boudoir all the time, and guys walk away with stunning photos that are hot as hell.
And you don't have to be built like Adonis or fit into that 28% to make it happen. I photograph real men with real bodies.
Does Male Sexual Shame Exist?
Male sexual shame is another piece you have to factor into men's boudoir. Sure it's easier to take cheesy dudeoir photos when faced with sexual shame because it is all in good fun. But, facing your own sexuality, you might take a longer pause. However, with male boudoir photography, you get freedom and understanding. Male sexual shame is real, but boudoir photography gives you a safe place to connect and heal.
Building Self-Confidence
Having an experienced male boudoir photographer can help ease even the most uncertain and timid men and get them feeling confident and sexy. With each pose, you'll get more comfortable and feel your inhibitions relax, and when you get your images, you will see just how sexy you can be.
What Is Boudoir for Men?
Boudoir photography usually involves women in some state of undress, posing sensually for photos. That is until recently when men's boudoir were added to the mix. Men are changing the landscape of what boudoir looks like.
Male boudoir photography, like boudoir for women, is considered an art form and is very empowering for those being photographed. The photographs capture men in a variety of compelling and confident yet sensual and vulnerable poses just like women get to do. This new trend allows men to experience all the different aspects of their sexuality.
Is There a Bias Against Photographing Men?
Bias against photographing male boudoir is a hot-button issue. Most female boudoir photographers won't touch men. (*Cough) I mean, take on male boudoir clients. They feel it leaves them too vulnerable, but there are a lot of steps that can be taken to keep things safe and professional. I've learned that mutual respect is the key to a successful session, in addition to setting clear boundaries and having open and direct communication.
Keeping it Professional
Not many women shoot men's boudoir because they feel it is a safety issue, so it's important to help keep things professional and safe for the women who do. I've never had an issue and I don't expect to. If I get a weird feeling, I don't book the appointment. I always listen to my intuition.
When shooting men's boudoir, it's not much different than shooting women's boudoir for me. I have safety procedures in place regardless of who I photograph. And while I keep things professional at all times, it’s important to me to make the scene comfortable and casual, too. I always keep things chill, laid back, and friendly. I’m here to make you feel alluring and sensual, but that is done through the lens of the camera only.
Keeping it Professional
Not many women shoot men's boudoir because they feel it is a safety issue, so it's important to help keep things professional and safe for the women who do. I've never had an issue and I don't expect to. If I get a weird feeling, I don't book the appointment. I always listen to my intuition.
When shooting men's boudoir, it's not much different than shooting women's boudoir for me. I have safety procedures in place regardless of who I photograph. And while I keep things professional at all times, it’s important to me to make the scene comfortable and casual, too. I always keep things chill, laid back, and friendly. I’m here to make you feel alluring and sensual, but that is done through the lens of the camera only.
What Men Can Do
I want men to feel their sexiest while I'm shooting their boudoir photos, but I also want them to be respectful of me as a professional. Hormones are gonna kick in, there's no way to escape that. But direct that energy to improve your poses instead of making comments or suggestions and never make advances.
Steps Photographers Take
Just like women, most men are trustworthy. They're putting themselves into a vulnerable position, too. It's just as important they feel safe. However, it's always a good idea to take sensible precautions just in case.
This means listening to your intuition. If you're made uncomfortable, or a red flag goes wildly flying while talking to a potential client, end the conversation immediately. No amount of money is worth putting yourself in a troublesome or dangerous position.
I vet all my clients, regardless of gender. We meet in person or over video chat as a requirement for booking a session. But when leaving for a shoot, if not working with an assistant, it's always good to let someone know where you will be, how long you are expected to be there and check in afterward. Also, carrying mace or pepper spray, or some other kind of safety device is never a bad idea, no matter who you are shooting for. You will probably never need it, but it's better to be prepared than not.
Tips for Making the Most of Your Male Boudoir Session
Nervous about your men's boudoir photography session? There are a few things you can do to make the most of it.
Just Be Yourself-don't try to compare yourself to someone else, not other guys in the portfolio or that you saw online. Know that your individuality is what's going to make your photos super seductive.
No Lingerie or Special Clothes Needed-jeans and a dress shirt or well-fitting underwear you already own can be even sexier than a special outfit you buy just for the shoot. It's better to be comfortable in something you feel good in.
Plan Ahead-discuss ahead of time with your photographer what kind of look you want to achieve. You should both know what to expect and want to be satisfied with the end results.
Props-don't be afraid to bring props if you want. Do you play soccer? Bring your favorite cleats and shorts. Have a favorite jacket? You want your photos to express who you are. If you are kink curious, there are a lot of props that can be used for male boudoir photography
Grooming-you want to look your best so whatever that means to you, show up that way. Get your beard trimmed or a new shave, haircut, or manscaping. A manicure and pedicure are always nice, whatever makes you feel your sexiest. Maybe get a massage to loosen you up. You can always have grooming done by my team, and we can touch up for tone and blemishes.
How You Can Book a Male Boudoir Photography Session
Art is art-whether you're shooting straight, gay or trans men. Doesn't matter if you are ripped, have a total 'dad-bod', or somewhere in between. No matter what, you can be represented naturally, artistically, or completely transformed using the magic of photography.
Male boudoir is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, and it is worth every cent, especially considering how you'll feel when you see just how damn hot you are. So take the plunge now instead of looking back and wishing you had. Contact me today and just do it.